I think we all have something we’re holding onto that isn’t serving any purpose. Perhaps because of having hope something will change, or not feeling ready to accept the reality of a situation; an ending. Freeing ourselves from ties that shouldn’t still be there is sometimes a scary and harsh reality for many. We oddly find comfort in the discomfort. We feel the harsh rope rubbing against our skin each time we resist and it’s a reminder of the good moments, the connections previously wrapped around our hearts, linking us to this memory, person, or hope of something that is no longer healthy or even in reach. Why keep hold of the rope? Why not cut it loose and be free from that attachment?
Sometimes we all experience a situation where we gave our all. We gave more than we should have. We pushed ourselves and made promises, but after a point of endlessly giving and allowing this rope to keep us captive, we finally feel a sting too great…a burn of flesh that is too much to bear. Maybe we waited too long…maybe there are now scars we can’t hide. But hitting that point, feeling the pain, and realizing this is not to our benefit and that we need to cut this rope before it lacerates us into pieces we can’t repair, that’s a wakeup call that serves a purpose. It’s a healthy reminder to those that have felt its pang, “I won’t go through that discomfort again.” It creates a book of learning lessons, boundaries and expectations that we navigate through and allow to prevail above any weaknesses, longing or irrational desires. Cutting the rope from unhealthy and controlling situations or thoughts, drives growth, strength, wisdom and self-love.
The only rope you need to stay tied to is the one linking your mind, heart and soul. Nourish it, better it, teach it, connect to it…love it. A rope of pain can easily become a rope of strength, it’s all dependent on what is at the other end.
